While the festive season is generally a very happy time to relax and reflect on the year which has passed, it can often be fraught with emotion and family issues can be brought to the surface.
It can become a busy and stressful time for those of us caring for elderly parents while taking on the added responsibilities the season brings. And, for families with a loved one who has Alzheimer’s Disease or dementia, there can be an added layer of complexity to this time of year.
However, with some planning and adjusted expectations, festive celebrations can still be happy, memorable occasions. Here are some tips from the US Alzheimers Organisation.
Familiarise others with the situation
An email or telephone call to family members to help them understand your loved one’s health might be a good start.
If the person is in the early stages of Alzheimer’s Disease or dementia, relatives and friends might not notice any changes. But the person with dementia may have trouble following conversations or tend to repeat themselves. Family can help with communication by being patient, not interrupting or correcting, and giving the person time to finish his or her thoughts.
If the person is in the middle or late stages of Alzheimer’s Disease, there may be significant changes in cognitive abilities. These changes can be hard to accept. Make sure visitors understand that changes in behaviour and memory are caused by the disease and not the person.
Discuss with family members in advance, so everyone understands what care responsibilities are required and make appropriate plans.
If Christmas has always meant having 30 people over for a full hot lunch with all the trimmings, perhaps think about simplifying the plans. Invite fewer people, ask others to contribute or go out to a restaurant.
Involve the person with dementia
Ensure that you still continue to honour old traditions and elements of the festive season that your relative always loved, such as singing old Christmas carols or looking through photo albums.
If they’re able to, put them to work measuring ingredients for the pudding, helping to wrap presents or decorating. Be careful of blinking lights as these can sometimes agitate those with dementia.
Try and stick to a normal routine by having planned rest breaks and regular sleep patterns.
When your loved lives in an aged care facility
It doesn’t matter if the festive season is celebrated at home or at a care facility. Here are some ways to celebrate together:
- Consider joining your loved one in any planned holiday activities
- Bring a favourite food to share
- Sing songs and ask if other residents can join in
- Read a favourite story or poem out loud
Research has shown the best place for a person with memory loss is in their own home, or in familiar surroundings. We feel safe, secure and most comfortable when we are at home.
At Oxley Home Care, we believe the best approach to dementia care is to support families living with the condition with dignity and unsurpassed care, helping loved ones maintain a high quality of life.
About Oxley Home Care
Oxley Home Care provides Dementia Care, Private Care, Home Care, Nursing and Allied Health to enable people to live a quality life independently in their own home and stay connected to their local community.
For further information, please feel free to call Oxley Home Care on 1300 993 591.